How to do to feel comfortable giving birth
Most mothers wait for the birth of their children with thrilled emotions and joy. Even when pregnancy is quite tiring and heavy, the thoughts about the child help them through long days of morning sickness.
But for many mothers there are many feelings of anxiety and fear. Join me in finding out the causes of these worries and how to prepare yourself before birth.
Common concerns of mothers when giving birth
- Psychological anxiety is not specific.
- Worry about the pain and how to overcome it.
- The previous birth is not smooth.
- Questions such as whether your child is developing well? Am I alright? And what if the mother or the child is not okay?
- Concerned about what her husband would look like when he saw him in pain.
- Concerned about possible changes in the future in the relationship husband and wife. For example, does your husband still find himself attractive?
- Worrying about the painful image of labor will become unattractive and ridiculous.
- Concerned about losing control.
- Not sure what to do and sometimes silly.
- Concerned about the physical changes from birth as physique.
Should not be too worried at birth
A little nervous is also normal. However, if you worry too much, it is also worrying.
Be aware that:
- Too much worrying about having a baby will affect your daily life.
- If you’re constantly worried you won’t be able to think about anything else.
- Anxiety is too easy to cause sleep disorders, have nightmares, wake up midway and cannot sleep again.
- Too much stress also makes you eat bad.
- Not excited about being pregnant and not sharing affection with your baby.
- Feeling angry toward your baby or husband.
- Do not want to have a normal cesarean birth. This is quite common with those who are too worried about labor and delivery.
- Obsessed with childbirth
Some women are too worried about having a baby and are diagnosed with a syndrome of fear of childbirth, also known as Tocophobia. An estimated 6-10% of women suffer from this syndrome. Research shows that with this small percentage, they are at risk of mental health problems compared to other pregnant women of the same age.
The fear of having a baby often appears in women who have had trouble giving birth before. These cases require a mental health professional with counseling before and after birth to help overcome that fear.
How to feel comfortable giving birth?
Being mentally prepared before giving birth will help you worry less during pregnancy. Find out as much as you can about the signs of labor, childbirth and recovery after birth. The mentality of wanting to give birth rather than fear will also help you feel more comfortable.
- Talk to your midwife, obstetrician or health care professional about your worries and they will help you overcome them.
- Share your worries with your husband, relatives and friends. They will share their experiences and make you more comfortable.
- Avoid listening to bad stories about childbirth.
- Plan your child carefully and prepare for unexpected situations. Remember, you don’t have complete control of labor and delivery that the doctors will help you with.
- Attend additional classes on reproductive knowledge.
- Trust in the doctor. They have systems and procedures to ensure the safest for mothers and babies.
- Do not be afraid to ask questions. If you feel confused, uncertain, scared or worried, please share that with your midwife / obstetrician. Stress will make you uncomfortable during childbirth.
- Learn information about labor, delivery, pain relief and postpartum recovery.
- Take relaxation classes like yoga, relax muscles, participate in education, meditation and massage.
Always remember that childbirth is normal, and it is happening every day to everyone. Although the individual experience is limited, but with the whole process, it’s completely normal.
The meaning of pain at birth
Pain in childbirth also has its meaning and value. No one wants to fall into an uncontrollable state. But what happens during labor is not in our control. But one thing is certain: the pains will end. The pain of labor is only in a certain period of time and the baby will be born. If you know your labor ends, you will feel better.
Measures to reduce pain at birth
Some women accept pain during labor to have a baby. They considered it a natural thing and did not want any intervention. But others are not. How we can handle the pain is everyone’s business. This person cannot be compared with others. But to avoid this feeling, you can choose a number of methods to help ease your pain.
Here are some methods to help relieve pain during labor:
- Nitrous oxide combines with air.
- Pethidine pain relievers.
- Epidural anesthesia.
- TENS machine
- Apply heat.
- Deep breath.
What to do to No longer worry about labor
Practicing birth exercises to get used to them, you can practice with your husband. Often we worry about problems that we do not fully understand.
Exercise regularly. Unless there’s a reason why you shouldn’t exercise during labor.
Focus on imagining something. Many women find themselves in an almost pristine state during labor. Put all your energy into your body and believe that your body will know what to do.
Bring an iPod or a favorite CD, some perfume or perfume into the delivery room with you. All senses remain active during labor, and this is a very sensitive time.
You can ask your husband to go to the delivery room with you or anyone you feel comfortable with to help you feel better, but you need to consider the number of patients allowed in the delivery room.
Think about your baby and imagine your baby is in labor with you too. Try to think that, after this pain, everything will be fine.
Try to relax between contractions. Feeling stress only adds to the discomfort and you should take advantage of that time to rest.
Focus on the upcoming contractions, not thinking about the next ones. Endure each attack, one attack at a time.
Do not be afraid or embarrassed to the doctor or midwife about what they see and hear. If you need to grumble, yell, pinch or all that, then just do it.
Remember that expectations about childbirth are not the same as reality. That’s why you need to plan carefully when you have a baby.